MS Caregivers: What to Say to Someone With MS

  •   November 14, 2016

When caring for someone with MS, you may wonder how to help or best support them. We see this sentiment often in comments from caregivers and advocates on our Lift MS Facebook page.

While you understand many of the common MS symptoms and daily life challenges, you may still wonder how to best respond in certain situations. We applaud your concern and have some suggestions for how to support someone with MS with your words, as well as your actions.

What You Want to Say

What You Should Consider Saying

We’ve been planning this for weeks! And now you’re cancelling at the last minute?

It’s no problem to reschedule. I know you’ve been looking forward to this; I’m sorry you’re not up to it. Would you like me to stop by for a visit at home instead?

But you look so good! You don’t even look sick.

I’m sure you have a lot going on that I can’t even see. I admire your strength and perseverance when it’s probably harder than it looks.

Is it really that bad?

I can’t fully understand what you’re going through, but I love you and want to help. What would help you most right now?

You’re always tired. Have you tried getting more sleep?

I’m sure you’ve done your research on the best way to handle your MS. Tell me more about what it’s like for you and how I can help you learn more.

You just need to think positive.

It’s probably hard to keep a positive attitude all the time with all you’re facing. That’s ok — you don’t always have to be upbeat. But I’m right here when you need a lift. Would you like to get together later to hang out and relax?

What are ways that you show support for your loved one with MS? How have others lifted you up? Let us know with a comment below; you never know when your experience might help someone else.

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1 Comment(s)
  • Caitlin | November 14, 2016
    That was quite the informative page of tips to help people with MS like myself,I appreciate that.
    • Teva's Lift MS Team | November 15, 2016
      Thanks for your kind words, Caitlin! Comments like yours fuel our efforts to build a helpful community.